Here was a heated, sarcastic response on Jezebel.
Now, you may have a strong reaction to the negative tone of the Jezebel article. But, first, I remind you that to whom much has been given, much more is required. Frankly, I don't know that anyone at Jezebel writes from a Christian perspective. So I don't expect them to be gracious. I do expect more of believers – I expect winsome responses, and I hope that we can hear secular criticism and be honest when they get parts right.
A friend made this comment on Facebook in response to concern about the Jezebel article, and I thought she hit the nail on the head.
I think what you view as "over the top" is a literary device the writer is using to show the logical conclusion of the mindset illustrated by Mrs. Hall's article. She's being shocking, yes. It's on purpose. She's provoking people to think about what is truly the problem here.
Which is one of the things that has really turned me off of the whole "women are responsible for the thought life of men" trope, frankly. Because when you take that to its logical end, you arrive at the burka and men who are constantly told they're not strong enough to escape the wiles of a woman's body - with the resultant "I can't help myself, she turned me on" rape-culture nonsense and/or men who are obsessed with sex because they're told constantly not to obsess about sex. Not to mention that whenever I come across fundamentalist Muslim justification of the use of burkas or head coverings, the logic is creepily familiar.
Reading the comments of the (Jezebel) article I posted are even more thought-provoking. One person brought up that when Mrs. Hall's boys presumably get married and have sex, will they then only see their wife as a sexual object? I.e., if men are incapable of seeing a less-than-completely-covered woman as anything other than a sex object, what happens when it's "ok"?
Everywhere you turn, the philosophical position breaks down into horrific strangeness at best.
Tonya Parkenson WrenIf you're unfamiliar with the terms slut-shaming or rape-culture, I suggest you do some online reading. The conversation that is going forward has some deep positive theological aspects to it, but it needs to happen within the Church in the context of the gospel, not outside of the Church where it sounds like the God of the Bible is not aware or concerned about these discrepancies. We need better ways of calling young women to value their identity in Christ than to shame them for innocently posting things or posting in a desperate cry for male attention that should signal to older mature Christian women a desperate cry for help. And we really, really need to have these conversations face to face with the young men and the young women in question.
* Edited to add a link to this post on speaking to our sons. Great thoughts in this one.